Seriously, what is it? Lots of people get married for different reasons. Some for love, to spend the rest of their lives with the person they love, and some for their children, because some find out “Whoops! Remember last Saturday night?” they are pregnant and decide that they should get married for their unborn child. On the other hand, some people get married ’cause they are just caught up in the moment, or because they are drunk, or even because the other person has money, and they want it.
I was always taught that you should only marry someone after you have lived with them and you know you want to spend the rest of your life with that person. You might decide you feel that way about someone and not get married, that’s your choice. But either way, I feel that marriage is supposed to be special, it shouldn’t be used as something to get money or make yourself feel better about getting pregnant or whatever. It should be thought about, and I mean really thought about.
But what about the people that don’t have the option to marry the one they love? I’m not just talking about the LGBTQ community. I’m also talking about the people who are set up for arranged marriages, and those who believe in polygamy. There are loads of people who cant get married.
For a long time interracial relationships were frowned upon, and marriage was forbidden. Why is it that we can understand that is wrong but not other types of relationships?
Here are definitions of marriage from three different sources:
- Marriage- 1a. The state of being married. b. Legal union of a man and woman as husband and wife. 2. The act of marrying or the ceremony of being married. 3. Close union.
- Married- 1a. Having a spouse. b. united in matrimony
- Marry- 1a. to become united within matrimony. b. To take a husband or wife. … 5. To unite in a close, usu. permanent way.
Scholastic Children’s Dictionary:
- Marriage- 1. The state of being married, or the relationship between a husband and wife.
- Married- 1. Someone who is married has a spouse.
- Spouse- A husband or a wife.
- Marry- 1. When people marry, they go through a ceremony in which they promise to spend their lives together.
- Marriage- 1a. the social institution under which a man and woman establish their decision to live as husband and wife by legal commitments, religious ceremonies, etc. b. a similar institution involving partners of the same gender: gay marriage. 2. the state, condition, or relationship of being married. 5. any close or intimate association or union.
- Married- 1. United in wedlock. 3. Created from components of two or more authentic pieces.
- Marry- 1. to take in marriage. 2. to perform the marriage ceremonies for (two people); join in wedlock. 4. to unite intimately. 5. to take as an intimate life partner by a formal exchange of promises in the manner of a traditional marriage ceremony.
… And some synonyms from Webster’s compact Thesaurus:
- Marriage– Union, Alliance, Association.
Obviously, many of the definitions specify that marriage is between a man and a woman, or a husband and a wife. Of course a definition will say this and not specifically between two members of the same sex because “gay marriage,” a term which I dislike, but I’ll save that for another post, is illegal. It seems ridiculous to define something as illegal, when not all forms are illegal. I hope that makes sense outside of my head.
However, some of the definitions did not specifically say that marriage is only between a man and a woman, nor did they say that it was only between two people. A lot of these definitions simply states that marriage is an intimate union.
I don’t understand why all marriage is not legal, as long as both or all parties are willing and can give their consent. Sorry, animals or inanimate objects cannot give consent, nor can dead people.
Religion is a major factor in the legality of different marriage types within our country. What happened to separation of church and state? Just because one or two religions, we all know which one I am talking about, don’t approve of any thing other than heterosexual, monogamous relationships, doesn’t mean everyone is that close-minded. There are even members of those religions that don’t agree with that belief.
I am straight and would never be able to handle anything but a monogamous relationship. However, It wont hurt me or my relationship if two men, or women got married. For all I care, six men can marry each other, as long as everyone knows about it. None of this will hurt me. In fact, the more people in the relationship, the more people there are to help clean. Sounds good to me.
If you want to have a homosexual or polygamist relationship, or both, go for it, I don’t care. Love is Love and that’s all there is to it.
- Barish, Wendy, and Sue Macy, eds. Scholastic Children’s Dictionary. New York: Scholastic, 1996. Print.
- “Marriage.” Dictionary.com. Dictionary.com, n.d. Web. 10 June 2012. <http://dictionary.reference.com/browse/marriage?s=t>.
- “Married.” Dictionary.com. Dictionary.com, n.d. Web. 10 June 2012. <http://dictionary.reference.com/browse/married?s=t>.
- “Marry.” Dictionary.com. Dictionary.com, n.d. Web. 10 June 2012. <http://dictionary.reference.com/browse/marry?s=t>.
- Soukhanov, Anne H., and Kaethe Ellis, eds. Webster’s II New Riverside University Dictionary. Boston, MA: Riverside Pub., 1984. Print.
- Webster’s Compact Thesaurus. New York: Gramercy, 2001. Print.
(I know that MLA format says that the Works Cited shouldn’t be bullet-ed, but for the purposes of keeping my post legible, I bullet-ed it. Problem?)